Wednesday, January 6, 2010

role playing

I just got an e-mail from Mark, asking to remind him not to forget his niece and nephew's birthdays this weekend, to which I replyed

"you already sent them birthday gifts along with their Christmas package".

On new year's eve, he drove a family friend home from dinner at our place, and had the awkward situation come up, where she thanked him for the Christmas gift from our family, and he had no idea what it was.

It isn't that Mark is a thoughtless person, who doesn't like to give gifts. 

We have simply slipped into roles, and my role is to be the gift selector, wrapper and mailer offer. I also keep our family calendar, make most appointments and correspond with the schools.  

I have no idea why, but it always works out that way.  I suppose I do know why, I am better at working these tasks into my day to day life and I have a better memory for details.

There are many times that our established roles make me feel like a bad feminist, but I am evolved and self actualized enough to realize that chosing do do what I like, what I am good at and what works for me, makes me a good feminist, at least I hope it does.

1 comment:

  1. Same here, I buy all the presents, and a good portion of my life is spent in scheduling. If I didn't do it, it wouldn't get done. I don't know if I have a head for details, I just see what has to be done and I do it.